Marriage…..Why Am I Getting Married?

This is one topic that I think a lot of people don’t address properly before “jumping the broom”. Marriage is a life time institution that one never graduates from. Sadly, this can not be said by everyone and I understand. Is getting married really worth it, if most of them Marriages ends up in divorce battles? But that doesn’t mean there are no Successful marriages out there right?

Should I get married to my girlfriend, even though I don’t love her? But everyone seems to be getting married.
In Matt. 19:4 we are told by Jesus that God created one “male and [one] female” and joined them in marriage( although it wasn’t spelt out as marriage). Mark 10:6-8:”But from the
beginning of the creation, God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, ‘and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.

“I already have a baby mama, do I still need to get married to my girlfriend? All my parents seem to care about is me providing them with grand children. They never care about how I feel”–Micheal Daniels

” I know that married life means you have someone to share all your happy moments with and someone to lean on during the difficult times. I already have that in my boyfriend, what if we decide to change our status and get married will he still be there for me?–Jasmine

These are but a few questions many ask before they tie the not, and many never finds the answer.

Why do i really need to get married?
Is it because traditions and culture expects me to? Do I just want to update my status from “Single to Married” so I can fit in? Am I getting married just so I can procreate and have my parents be proud of me? Do I get married because I have found “the one”? Do I get married so I can have a meaningful life with my hearthrob, but do I really need another to make my life meaningful?

Most married people have aged gracefully together, would that be my case if I get married?
Am not a good communicator, would I be able to communicate with my partner? I don’t like my breath in the morning…How would i cope with the breath of another? Am a control freak but my partner is open, flexible and easy going. Do I go ahead and marry him? Would we be able to compliment one another?

I have always wanted a rich man, a man with class, a man who has achieved a lot for himself but is that all I need to be happy in my marriage and in life? What happens when he’s down, would i still love him and stay married? I know money answered all things, but is that a good reason for me to get married?  Am not very patient with people, would i be able to tolerate my partner? I love my partner but is that enough for me to get married? I mean so many people who professed love to one another didn’t survive the test and trials of life…My partner is not so rich but he loves me, should I marry him? Do I believe in his dreams? Does he believe in mine? Would he support me Spiritually and physically? Would I be able to do same for him? Would I help him be the man God wants him to be? Would I be able to bring out the best in him? Would he do same for me?

Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife, finds good things and optains favour from the Lord. Marriage is a blessing, despite the odds. How we view marriage today is very different from how our parents saw Marriage. They had a simple life and were always content with what life offered. Their marriage was based on tolerance, companionship, and devotion. They had morals and values, something that can’t be found amongst our youth today. Most of our youth are so overwhelmed with material things and they attribute and expect a lot from their partners.

“The modern marriage is based on sexual compatibility, love and romance. If the sex goes bad or the romance dies, than the couple can walk away from that marriage. How do you work out whether you are sexually compatible? Well, of course, you try before you buy! You make sure that you have a sufficient number of sexual partners to work out what you like and what you don’t like, so that when Mr. or Ms. Right comes along, you will know he or she is the one for you as soon as you sleep with him or her. Gone are the days when a woman’s virginity was saved until the wedding night and sex was something that happened only after marriage”.–

It’s time we set our priorities and get it right before we jump the broom or say”YES I DO!.

Mojeed Belewu

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